When in a marital relationship, our spouse should be our primary confidant, not family, friends, or coworkers. Keeping secrets from your spouse may be a warning of you marrying the wrong person.
To seek marital counsel from outsiders can lead to trouble and confusion resulting from our clandestine actions. Even if it results in disapproval, it is important to share with your spouse things that can potentially affect the marriage. A loving spouse will love you regardless and should hold the foremost position as our advisor under God only.
When lending or gifting money, even if it’s your own, communicate it, and seek approval from your spouse, after receiving it from God. Secrets in a relationship require too much effort and it creates instability. Eventually, secrets in marriage will be brought to light and it is our individual responsibility to prevent this from damaging the relationship.
In general, it is always important to be honest with your partner about experiences and feelings, including those of a perverse attraction. Approach any conversation with sensitivity, openness, and a willingness to listen. Discuss all concerns or questions your partner may have.
The degree of disclosure will vary from person to person and so will the timing and context of the conversation. It depends on the nature of the experience and the level of trust and communication in the relationship. But this disclosure must occur at some point.
The Bible provides guidance for honest and transparent relationships. (Ephesians 4:25) Tells us to put off falsehood. (Colossians 3:9) Says to take off your old self. In (James 5:16) we are told to “confess your sins to each other.” (Proverbs 24:26) “An honest answer is like a kiss”. These Scriptures emphasize the importance of honesty, mutual confession of sin, and transparent communication in relationships based on Biblical scriptural laws.
Honesty and transparency are essential to a healthy marriage, because it builds trust, which is one of the foundations of marriage. To be truthful about your feelings, thoughts, and actions show a willingness to be vulnerable which foster intimacy. The sharing of our deepest thoughts, fears, and desires with a special person creates a deeper bond and understanding of one another.
With God’s Word as our guide, we can identify and resolve problems in life, when we have an awareness and understanding of HIS Word. When operating in truth, we help each other grow individually and as a body. This truth allows us to make informed decisions, communicate effectively, and respond appropriately to situations in our spiritual, personal, and/or professional lives.
Ephesians 4:25
New International Version
25 “Therefore each of you must put off falsehood and speak truthfully to your neighbor, for we are all members of one body.”
Ephesians 4:25
King James Version
25 “Wherefore putting away lying, speak every man truth with his neighbour: for we are members one of another.”
Ephesians 4:25
Living Bible
25 “Stop lying to each other; tell the truth, for we are parts of each other and when we lie to each other we are hurting ourselves.”
Colossians 3:9-10
New International Version
9 “Do not lie to each other, since you have taken off your old self with its practices 10 and have put on the new self, which is being renewed in knowledge in the image of its Creator.”
Colossians 3:9-10
King James Version
9 “Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds;
10 And have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him:”
Colossians 3:9-10
Living Bible
9 “Don’t tell lies to each other; it was your old life with all its wickedness that did that sort of thing; now it is dead and gone. 10 You are living a brand new kind of life that is continually learning more and more of what is right, and trying constantly to be more and more like Christ who created this new life within you.”
James 5:16
New International Version
16 “Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous person is powerful and effective.”
James 5:16
King James Version
16 “Confess your faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.”
James 5:16
Living Bible
16 “Admit your faults to one another and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The earnest prayer of a righteous man has great power and wonderful results.”
Proverbs 24:26
New International Version
26 “An honest answer is like a kiss on the lips.”
Proverbs 24:26
King James Version
26 “Every man shall kiss his lips that giveth a right answer.”
Proverbs 24:26
Living Bible
26 “It is an honor to receive a frank reply.”