“Blame’s On You” – A Monologue for the Soul
You know, sometimes we feel stuck—held back, frustrated, spinning our wheels in the same place year after year. We ask God, “Why me? Why won’t anything change?” And while it’s easy to look outward—to point the finger at people, systems, or circumstances—have you ever paused to ask: What if the problem isn’t out there? What if the blame’s on you?
Yes, I said it. Maybe it wasn’t your boss, your family, your lack of opportunities, or even the devil. Maybe it was you who wasn’t direct enough… wasn’t assertive, wasn’t honest. Maybe you were too passive when God called you to be bold. Too silent when the truth needed a voice. Too prideful to admit when you were wrong. Sometimes, we stand in our own way and then wonder why the door won’t open.
We love to quote scriptures like “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me,” but the question is—are you letting HIM strengthen you through correction, discipline, and truth? Because sometimes we ask God for growth, but we run from the pruning process. And let’s be honest, accountability is part of that pruning.
What can you do differently to get different results? That’s a real question. Because if you’ve truly tried everything and nothing worked—maybe it’s time to try God for real. Not as a last resort, but as your foundation. Not as a backup plan, but as the plan.
And part of letting God in, is letting HIM shine light on you. Your habits. Your attitude. Your fears. Your ego. It’s not easy. But if you never learn to criticize your own behavior, how can you expect to grow? Growth isn’t always about reading more or working harder—it’s about reflecting deeper.
When was the last time you asked, “Where am I toxic? What thinking patterns in me are broken? What have I been avoiding, excusing, justifying?”
We’re so quick to call out others—but silence when it comes to ourselves. That imbalance? It’s weakness. And God didn’t call you to be weak. HE called you to be humble, teachable, and strong in HIM.
It takes strength to repent. Strength to admit you mishandled something. Strength to say, “I was wrong, and I want to do better.” But that’s where freedom begins. That’s when transformation takes root.
So today, don’t just ask God to change your circumstances—ask HIM to change you. Not because you’re worthless, but because you’re worth the work. Because accountability isn’t condemnation—it’s invitation. An invitation to rise. To become. To walk in the fullness of who HE created you to be.
So go ahead. Look in the mirror. Ask the hard questions. Own your story—and then let God rewrite it with grace, power, and truth.
Because maybe, just maybe… the blame was on you. But so is the breakthrough.