It is a mystery how one born innocent and full of humility, which is all of us, can yoke with one who’s been abused and mistreated in their upbringing, and that stronghold of abuse is passed on like venom to an undeserving spouse, child, or acquaintance.  The evil enemy selects the young for maltreatment, knowing that damaging a seedling leads to the detriment of an entire people.  When the stronghold of abuse is not identified and eradicated in one generation, it goes on to bear more fruit of its kind in the next.  Our early life experiences, good or bad, will ultimately shape our development.  Not all of the time but most, abused children go on to abuse others as adults.

 

When the cycle of abuse is not destroyed through prayer, wise-counsel, and/or emotional healing, there’s a chance of future infliction on others of a similar cruelty.  The raped goes on to rape, the battered will batter, as the sexually molested goes on to molest.  If not in the same manner they were mistreated, it can manifest in other ways, which is often not identified as resulting from a previous trauma.  For example, a woman abused as a child, can go on to abuse others by her words, actions and treatment.  The same is so for a man, although they may not abuse others in the same manner that they were abused, they become abusers nevertheless.  One mistreated and abandoned by a parent, can go on to abandon a spouse or child.  One deprived of food, can go on to deprive others from sharing in their success or becoming a hoarder.  A person denied parental love and warmth can grow into a cold-hearted adult who lacks empathy.  An unidentified youthful ordeal can result in that same child being a careless adult in the spread of an acquired disease or virus.

 

There is too, an opposite reaction to youthful trauma.  To become a mediator, or approval seeker is another result of neglect or abuse.  A successful person abused as a child can grow to select only friends that are less fortunate than they are, and use their financial and social advantage to control or manipulate their friends and family. Utilizing this same strategy to control a spouse in their marriage.  There is often one member of a marriage that is more prosperous than their spouse, God forbid the person with an unidentified trauma be the most successful.  Making the least successful spouse a silent pincushion of verbal and mental abuse; while overindulging their children without giving them values or teaching them work ethic.

 

Pride makes excuses for mistreatment while humility makes adjustments.  Dig deep inside yourself and find the person capable of evolution and change.  We serve a God of discovery.  Those who realize and identify their early abuse can humble themselves thus making adjustments to coexist with an equal partner or spouse.  Only humility can get you out of what false pride gets you into.  Thereby eradicating the possibility of bringing forth damaged fruit from a covenant filled with abuse.

 

The internal strength of God is more powerful than external might.  Leaning on the Word of God can develop this strength.  Discover God and discover who you are.

 

Protect the young, for they are the future adults of the world.  In protecting them, teach them humility and fair play.

 

2 Samuel 1:18

King James Version

^18 “(Also he bade them teach the children of Judah the use of the bow: behold, it is written in the book of Jasher.)”

 

1 Timothy 3:16

King James Version

^16 “And without controversy great is the mystery of godliness: God was manifest in the flesh, justified in the Spirit, seen of angels, preached unto the Gentiles, believed on in the world, received up into glory.”

 

Proverbs 15:33

King James Version

^33 “The fear of the Lord is the instruction of wisdom; and before honour is humility.”

 

John 8:23

King James Version

^23 “And he said unto them, Ye are from beneath; I am from above: ye are of this world; I am not of this world.”

 

Psalm 66:5

King James Version

^5 “Come and see the works of God: he is terrible in his doing toward the children of men.”

 

1 Peter 5:5

King James Version

^5 “Likewise, ye younger, submit yourselves unto the elder. Yea, all of you be subject one to another, and be clothed with humility: for God resisteth the proud, and giveth grace to the humble.”

 

Proverbs 22:6

King James Version

^6 “Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”