Many men and women play victim from a problem they create. Divorce is at an all-time high worldwide. Even in countries where the culture doesn’t permit divorce. Why do men and women, after marriage, reach a point of utter disgust for one another?
Those with an unfavorable opinion who ask; how can such a broad statement be said about married couples worldwide? To you, we offer the following: We are not writing to you. This article is for the other 99% of society who doesn’t think everything spoken or written is about them.
If you are in your first and only marriage, raised children, and are approaching or have exceeded 20 years of conjugal relations, this is not intended for you and your mate. In fact, the title of this article more applies to you. When you are the right one for your mate, you won’t ever leave the marriage. If you have reached 20 years of marriage and raised children, you are to be much admired, honored, and praised for the accomplishment.
To the rest of us who have experienced breakup or divorce, there were problems in the marriage and one of us, more than the other, created them. In this scenario, there is a perpetrator and a victim. In case those with an unfavorable opinion of everything are still reading this, we excused you in the second paragraph. Read on at your own peril.
To those in their second, third, and fourth attempts at marriage, remember rule number 1, the right one won’t leave! No matter the person in the marriage who decides to leave, making that decision means that you were not the right one for your spouse to marry in the first place. Someone created the problems, and if you did, you cannot play victim. You see, the right one for you will not leave the marriage; they are more likely to address the problems. Only problem makers play the victim and withdraw themselves from a marital covenant created by God.
We are all flawed from the beginning. A broken man is born that way and he lives better by mending. The glue that holds us together is the Grace of God.
Critics review the works of authors of truth with a lack of friendliness and/or enthusiasm. Authors, who write truth, rarely see commercial success in their lifetime. Authors divinely inspired must see to their own fame. The unfavorable opinion of those who feel an insistent need to express it must be excluded from our self-expression. The rest of the world will catch up, even if after we are gone from the earth.
Those meant to teach; the ability to do so shows up early in their development. It did in the development of Jesus. As with Jesus, the devil will send people on assignment to derail our destiny when we are doing Kingdom work. The right people will stay, the wrong one’s cannot, because of the presence of God in our life.
Deuteronomy 24:1-4
New International Version
24 “If a man marries a woman who becomes displeasing to him because he finds something indecent about her, and he writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, 2 and if after she leaves his house she becomes the wife of another man, 3 and her second husband dislikes her and writes her a certificate of divorce, gives it to her and sends her from his house, or if he dies, 4 then her first husband, who divorced her, is not allowed to marry her again after she has been defiled. That would be detestable in the eyes of the Lord. Do not bring sin upon the land the Lord your God is giving you as an inheritance.”
Deuteronomy 24:1-4
King James Version
24 “When a man hath taken a wife, and married her, and it come to pass that she find no favour in his eyes, because he hath found some uncleanness in her: then let him write her a bill of divorcement, and give it in her hand, and send her out of his house.
2 And when she is departed out of his house, she may go and be another man’s wife.
3 And if the latter husband hate her, and write her a bill of divorcement, and giveth it in her hand, and sendeth her out of his house; or if the latter husband die, which took her to be his wife;
4 Her former husband, which sent her away, may not take her again to be his wife, after that she is defiled; for that is abomination before the Lord: and thou shalt not cause the land to sin, which the Lord thy God giveth thee for an inheritance.”
Deuteronomy 24:1-4
Living Bible
24 “ “If a man doesn’t like something about his wife, he may write a letter stating that he has divorced her, give her the letter, and send her away. 2 If she then remarries 3 and the second husband also divorces her or dies, 4 the former husband may not marry her again, for she has been defiled; this would bring guilt upon the land the Lord your God is giving you.”