Paradox of Proximity: The Relationship Between Respect, Distance, and Boundaries
In life, we encounter people who respect our boundaries only when we maintain a certain distance. When we get too close, however, their treatment of us may shift, often for the worse. This can be a painful reality, as proximity can breed familiarity, and unfortunately, familiarity can breed contempt. It’s a reminder that sometimes, distance is not merely physical—it’s a sign of respect, both for ourselves and for others.
For Christians, this can feel particularly challenging. The Bible teaches us to love and show kindness to all, but it’s also clear that boundaries are necessary for healthy relationships. When we step back, we might see how the dynamics shift. People who once took us for granted may suddenly recognize our worth. Distance can provide clarity and help people appreciate the value of others in ways they might not have done before.
This shift in perception can be likened to the way predators often seek out the weak or vulnerable—those who lack defenses. As believers, we are called to have big hearts, full of love and kindness. However, this very gentleness can sometimes make us targets. The softer our approach, the sharper our need for discernment. Those who take advantage of the meek and humble often do so because they perceive them as easy prey.
It’s essential to remember that being born into difficult circumstances, surrounded by deceit or betrayal, doesn’t automatically make someone a skilled predator. True predators know how to exploit others, seeking out those they deem vulnerable. In contrast, the one who remains firm in faith and maintains healthy boundaries—even in the face of adversity—embodies strength, wisdom, and resilience.
Ultimately, the relationship between predator and prey is a strange one. But as Christians, we are called not only to love but to be wise as serpents and innocent as doves (Matthew 10:16). This means recognizing when distance is necessary to protect others, and ourselves when proximity may serve to deepen respect and understanding. By navigating relationships with wisdom, we can avoid being exploited, while still showing Christ-like love to those around us.
Previously mentioned Scripture.
Matthew 10:16
New International Version
16 “ “I am sending you out like sheep among wolves. Therefore be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves.”
Matthew 10:16
King James Version
16 “Behold, I send you forth as sheep in the midst of wolves: be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.”
Matthew 10:16
Living Bible
16 “ “I am sending you out as sheep among wolves. Be as wary as serpents and harmless as doves.”